Are you combing through you contact list and your parent’s old address books trying to compile your guest list? A wedding is an occasion that can cause both joy and stress regarding the people in your life. Of course, you want to include those who have supported you and your love through your lives, but do you really need that third cousin or co-worker from your first job? Below we will discuss the pros and cons of keeping it intimate or doing it big!
Small: An intimate ceremony with just your closest squad may be just what you are looking for! Here are the good and not so good of a small ceremony...
-Intimate: The guests at this event will be your best friends and adoring families. The essential individuals that without, you would not be who you are today. You will be able to spend more time speaking with each person and celebrating you and your relationships with all of them as well!
-Price: Of course, price will be lower! The less heads the less money spent on catering, rentals, florals, and smaller factors such as invitations. If you are budget conscious then the best way of controlling costs is explaining to family and friends you are keeping things small.
-DIY friendly: Grab your glue guns and hit the Goodwill! If you are a thrifty DIY gal or girl then smaller is for you. If you are considering creating your own favors, invitations, or décor then creating 50 rather than 200 is going to be a lot more plausible. Personal touches make an event beautifully specific to you and your significant other but can be quite a large undertaking as your guest count climbs.
-Venue hunting: Selecting your venue for a cozier celebration may be a challenge. Although you will avoid hitting maximum capacities, most venues also have minimums! While there are plenty of great options which may require additional hunting, some of the more well-known facilities may not be able to accommodate your event.
-Family dynamics: This is probably the greatest con of your choice for small. Consider the friends and family who may feel left out if they do not receive an invite. A lot of people love you and want to be able to celebrate you on this day. Also, think about who is paying for the wedding. If a parent is fronting the bill, they often are not okay with leaving out extended family or life-long friends.
-Smaller than you think: Between 10-20 percent of your invited guests will not actually attend the event. Due to other engagements or pop-up issues not all your loved ones will accept your invitation. Although this doesn’t seem like an issue, if only 40 of your invited guests attend your venue will be less full and the energy will be lower.
Big: Inviting all your family and friends that have watched your relationship blossom is sure to be a once in a lifetime party!
-Party all night: Okay, probably the best argument for a large wedding is the party! The more people, the more energy, and the more breaking it down on the dance floor. There is some support behind “the bigger is better” in this case!
-No one gets left behind: You want your guests to be comfortable on this day! They are spending money to be guests in an outfit, travel, hotel, gifts… you may not want to add additional costs for them like babysitters. By allowing kids, or plus ones to come to your event, your friends and family will appreciate the hassle you are saving for them. And you avoid any hurt feelings!
-All the goodies: Okay, let’s be real, we all love presents! This one may seem a bit selfish but it is true – the more guests you have the more love and support you will feel. Not just in tangible objects but applause and well wishes will rain down on you and your love during a large life transition.
-More of everything: Probably the scariest con that comes along with a large guest count is price. Yes, you are purchasing more of everything, so overall costs in some areas will be greater. However, you will still be paying for all the same things and certain fixed costs like tips, utilities, and insurances will be the same.
-Less quality time: I’m sure you have heard the rumor of couples not getting to eat, dance, or even use the restroom on their big day. All of your 300 invited guests will want to give you a squeeze and congratulations, so you will be forced to limit your time with them all. However, most guests are aware of this and are happy with a quick kiss on the cheek and a boogie on the dance floor.
-Special requests: The larger your guest list, the more special requests you may have. Consider the needs of your guests such as wheelchair accessibility, allergies, dietary restrictions, and handicap facilities. Limiting your guest list may lower the range of requests you will need to accommodate.
And remember loves, whether you are going big or small all of the same details and planning go in to it! You still need to make a seating chart, get hotel blocks, organize transportation, and select centerpieces. Choose the size of celebration you are looking for based off what you and your finance envision for your perfect day. If you are all about whooping it up then invite everyone and their mother! If you are all for cozy and conversations, then pair it down to just those who know you best. And either way – we will be here to help with it all! Happy Tuesday and Happy Fourth of July!